18 Habits from Childhood that affect your relationship

1. ABANDONMENT
People who cling to others because they’re
afraid of being left and don’t feel important
relationships will last. They’re usually attracted
to partners who cannot be there in a
committed way

2. Emotional Deprivation
Most of the time, these patients haven’t had
someone to nurture them, to care deeply
about everything that happens to them or
someone who was tuned in to their true
feelings and needs.

3. Entitlement
Those who hate to be constrained or kept from
doing what they want or feel that they
shouldn’t have to follow the normal rules and
conventions other people do

4. Defectiveness
People who think they’re unworthy of the love,
attention, and respect of others and believe
that no matter how hard they try, they won’t
be able to get a significant partner to respect
them or feel they are worthwhile.

5. Subjugation
In relationships, these people let the other
person have the upper hand and worry a lot
about pleasing other people so they won’t be
rejected.

6. Unrelenting Standards
People who must be the best at most of what
they do and feel there is constant pressure to
achieve and get things done. Their
relationships suffer because they push
themselves so hard.

7. Mistrust/Abuse
Those who feel that they cannot let their guard
down in the presence of other people, or else
that person will intentionally hurt them. If
someone acts nicely toward them, they assume
that he/she must be after something.

8. Self-Sacrifice
People who puts others’ needs before their
own, or else they feel guilty, and usually end
up taking care of the people they’re close to.

9. Social Isolation
Individuals who don’t think that they relate
well to other people and/or feel that they don’t
fit in with any sort of group.

10. Dependence
People who often feel helpless or aren’t
capable of making a decision without the aid
of another person.

11. Vulnerability to Harm or Illness
Hypochondriacs and/or those who consistently
fear that they will be involved in a catastrophe
like an airplane crash or hurricane.

12. Enmeshment
Young’s patients who have a weak sense of
personal identity and habitually cling to or
“mesh” with other people do so in order to feel
like a complete person.

13. Failure
Someone who believes they will never succeed
or that they’re not as bright or talented as the
people around them.

14. Insufficient Self-Control
Those who lack self-discipline and want to quit
a task at the first sign of frustration or failure.
(People with milder forms of this schema will
give up personal satisfaction or fulfillment in
order to avoid conflict or confrontation; could
be described as a slacker.)

15. Approval Seeking
Individuals can place an extreme importance
on other people’s opinions and sometimes put
a high level of significance on appearance and
social status as a means to get attention.
16. Negativity
Someone who focuses on the worst parts of
life (disappointments, missteps, and
embarrassing moments) and might have
inflated fears that they will make a mistake
that will result in a personal crisis, like
financial ruin.

17. Inhibition
People who are afraid to show emotion or, for
that matter, initiate conversation—might be
described as wallflowers.

18. Punitiveness
Those that believe even the smallest mistake
deserves punishment. Usually hold themselves
—and others—to very high expectations; find it
hard to empathize or forgive mistakes, their
own and those of others.